Chasten Your Son While There is Hope

I bear my willing witness that I owe more to the fire, and the hammer, and the file, than to anything else in the Lord’s workshop. I sometimes question whether I have ever learned anything except through the rod. When my schoolroom is darkened I see most. (Charles Haddon Spurgeon … More


You will find a very unhappy home where a foolish son and a quarrelsome wife are found (v. 13). In fact where you find one you often will find the other. For where the wife disputes her husband’s authority and takes sides with the children as well as opposes proper discipline it is bound to have a bad effect on the children. Children who grow up in a home where parents  air their differences before them tend to despise authority and defy correction. You may inherit all you own from your parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the Lord (v. 14). If you are lazy and sleep your time away, you will starve (v. 15). The commandments we are told to keep are those found in God’s Word. To obey what God teaches in the Bible is self-preserving. To disobey is self-destructive.

The person is short-sighted indeed who despises the ways of God and chooses to just go his own way. The person who chooses to follow the instructions of God’s Word will avoid his own destruction (v. 16). Giving to the poor is like lending to the Lord and it is truly an  investment that He will reward (v. 17). The widow of Zarephath is a great example of this type of giving (I Kings 17:10-16).

A child guilty of wrong doing should be disciplined in his early years while there is hope for him (v. 18). In fact to fail to administer such needed discipline may contribute to a premature death of the child. This may either come by punishment under the law or because of natural consequences brought on by the child’s foolish behavior in which he destroys himself. Many a child have been left to grow up in a home where there wasn’t much if any discipline. If there was any discipline it was often done in anger which only hardens the heart of the child. People with bad tempers are always in trouble, and they need help over and over again (v. 19).


It is better to be pruned to grow than to be cut up to burn. I am thankful for all the pruning I have had by my parents and by the Lord but know I needed a lot more and still do.

Proverbs 19:10-19 (English Standard Version)

It is not fitting for a fool to live in luxury, much less for a slave to rule over princes. Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. A king's wrath is like the growling of a lion, but his favor is like dew on the grass. A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife's quarreling is a continual dripping of rain. House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. Slothfulness casts into a deep sleep, and an idle person will suffer hunger. Whoever keeps the commandment keeps his life; he who despises his ways will die. Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will repay him for his deed. Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death. A man of great wrath will pay the penalty, for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.

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