Instruction About The Tragedy of Adultery

We must face the fact that many today are notoriously careless in their living. This attitude finds its way into the church. We have liberty, we have money, we live in comparative luxury. As a result, discipline practically has disappeared. What would a violin solo sound like if … More


God never intended for children to be independent of their parents or parents to let children do as they please. This is a big mistake made in homes today. An emphasis is made on how important the discipline of parents is (vv. 20-30). The father is to establish the guiding principles and rules of the home and the mother is to help see that they are carried out. To let children be instructed by their peers, TV, or by much of what is on the internet, is worse than feeding them tainted meat. The one may destroy the body but the other may destroy both body and soul.

People may sympathize with a thief if he is stealing to avoid starvation (v. 30). Of course if he is caught, restitution is demanded (v. 31). But at least it is possible to make things right even though it may take all he has. However, one who steals another man’s wife will find that amends can  never be made, either to the wronged husband or the  partner in the act. Repentance toward God will not erase reproach. The deep marks of this wound and the shame will remain to haunt him.

Wisdom acquired from God’s Word, helps protect them from the life wrecking sin of adultery. Discipline, though painful (Heb. 12:11),helps keep a person on the right path. As parents and children we need to understand the seriousness of how a person who commits adultery “destroyeth his own soul” (v. 32). Adultery is more than a sin against the man or woman involved but is particularly hated by God (Eph. 5:5). Jealousy makes the wronged man furious (vv. 33-35).


I have found that it has been important to spend time helping my children write out dating standards. Also to help them look up verses that will give them Biblical principles to go by. This included things that they would and would not do on a date. I had them type these out and put them in the front of their Bible for review.

Proverbs 6:20-35 (English Standard Version)

My son, keep your father's commandment, and forsake not your mother's teaching. Bind them on your heart always; tie them around your neck. When you walk, they will lead you; when you lie down, they will watch over you; and when you awake, they will talk with you. For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching a light, and the reproofs of discipline are the way of life, to preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress. Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes; for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life. Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched? So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; none who touches her will go unpunished. People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his appetite when he is hungry, but if he is caught, he will pay sevenfold; he will give all the goods of his house. He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself. He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away. For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. He will accept no compensation; he will refuse though you multiply gifts.

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