Self Control is Important

Proverbs 25:11–28
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The writer is making a comparison with the apples of gold in a framework of silver (a beautiful work of sculpture) to words of wisdom spoken at a proper time (v. 11). The kindly rebuke of a wise man is of greater value than costly presents (v. 12). In ancient times, snow was stored up in the cliffs of the mountains and used to cool drinks in the heat of the summer at harvest time. A trustworthy messen­ger is refreshing in the same way (v. 13). It is important that we fulfill our promises. When clouds are seen during a drought, men hope for rain and are disappointed (v. 14). Jude used this same illustration in reference to false teachers (Jude 1:12). 

Self-control is important (vv. 15-17). Many things are good in moderation, but when taken in excess they may be harmful. Too much time spent in the home of a friendly neighbor may turn them into an enemy (v. 17).  It is easy to wear out one’s welcome. Giving false testimony can crush a relationship (v. 18). Relying on a person who turns out to be untrustworthy can be disappointing and troublesome (v. 19). It would be unthinkably cruel to take away man’s coat in the winter. It is also cruel to sing songs to a depressed person (v. 20). The sad and grief stricken prefer loving sympathy instead of a sermon.

Kindness can turn an enemy into a friend, and it can soften angry feelings (vv. 21-22). Repeating matters better left forgotten brings sorrow and strife to both the teller and the hearer (v. 23). In Biblical times there were often long periods of waiting to hear from relatives or friends living in distant lands. Any news received was precious indeed, like cold water to a thirsty soul (v. 25). In the arid country of Palestine, it was a great disappointment to come across a contaminated spring or well (v. 26). The same is true of a man who allows his life to be polluted by compromise and sin. A city without walls is subject to enemy attacks. Compromise leaves a person vulnerable to Satan’s attack. Exalting oneself is as bad as overeating honey (v. 27). Your temper is like a fire. It is very destructive when it gets out of control. 

Application

The apostle Paul said, “The things that I don’t want to do seem to be the things I end up doing and the things I want to do are not the things I find myself doing. This is not the pattern I want to have in my life so I pray that with the Lord’s help I will be able to exercise self control.