The Wife’s Life Was Centered Around Her Home

On Christmas afternoon, the Pastor’s wife dropped into an easy chair saying, “Boy! Am I ever tried.” Her husband looked over at her & said, “I had to conduct two special services last night, three today, & give a total of five sermons. Why are you so … More


This virtuous wife is famous for the way she looks after her household and her priorities dictate the investment of her energies. She works hard (v. 17) and has a healthy attitude toward her work. The fact that her lamp does not go out (v. 18) seems to speak of her planning ahead. In Matthew, the five virgins whose lamps did not go out were praised for thinking ahead Matt. 25:4).

One of the things this noble wife did well for her family and her business was to make cloth by spinning wool or flax on a spindle (v. 19). She sells some of her merchandise for profit but because of her generous heart she also give clothing to the poor and needy who have nothing (v. 20). When the weather turns cold she and her family have no need to panic because they are prepared for it. She has clothed them in expensive (scarlet) garments and has spared no cost to protect her family from the cold (v. 21). She even makes her family’s bed coverings. Silk is made from flax (v. 13) and purple is a die made from a shellfish (v. 22). I think we can safely say that her family was well dressed.

Because of her testimony before the people her husband’s position is enhanced among those who were over the legal and judicial affairs at the city gates (v. 23). Although she is aggressive and shows great leadership abilities she also shows respect for her husband and builds him up before others. This is done in such a way that it honors her husbands leadership and makes him respected. There is a big contrast in the wife described here and many wives we find in our society today. Her life was centered around her home even though she produced and sold merchandise to earn extra income for her family. She did not leave the home to go some place else to work for another boss while her children grew up under the supervision and care of a baby sitter.


I am very privileged and thankful to have a wife who has honored this Scriptural principle described in Proverbs 31. My desire is to be the right kind of husband to her and finish well.

Proverbs 31:17-23 (English Standard Version)

She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night. She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle. She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet. She makes bed coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.

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