The Ideal Woman is Rare

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This passage gives us the characteristics of an ideal woman. The question in Proverbs 20:6 “Who can find?” does not suggest that such women, like noble men, are nonexistent but that they should be admired because they are rare. They are even more valuable than rubies (v. 10). Another example of such a woman is found in Ruth who was called “a woman of noble character” (Ruth 3:11).

Her husband has great confidence in her (v. 11). Her careful household management enhances the family’s wealth and because of it he lacks nothing. This kind of woman is a great asset to her husband  as she supports and encourages him all the days of her life (v. 12). She enjoys her work as she is involved in weaving and sewing (v. 13). Like the merchants ships, her activities apparently extend beyond those normally associated with the housewife. As an ideal wife she brings unusual and fascinating things home from her shopping (v. 14).

Even though it appears that this unusual woman has house hold servants working for her she gets herself up early, before daybreak, to help prepare breakfast and food for other meals. She even considers the buying of a field (v. 15). In this wealthy household she apparently had money to invest (v. 16). It is for certain that she has a business mind and she works hard.


Some people have the mistaken idea that the ideal woman in the bible is retiring, quiet and entirely domestic. Instead she is an excellent wife and mother. In addition she is a manufacture, importer, manager, realtor, farmer, seamstress, etc.. Her attractiveness comes entirely from her character. Lord help me to be able to evaluate myself. Lord I want to be able to give myself to you and to my family..

Proverbs 31:10-16 (English Standard Version)

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

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